Trust is a key element in a good relationship between two people. In the case of a romantic relationship, it is fundamental.
Here’s a proposed equation for the level of trust, to help you understand the factors involved and their impact, and learn how to influence and improve it.
Explanations below:
1. The credibility
It comes down to transparency and honesty. When we say something, the other person believes us because we’re used to telling the truth.
Lies are the quickest way to lose credibility.
2. The reliability
It means being responsible, being able to commit to the relationship. When you say you’re going to be there or do something, you are there or you actually do it. The other person knows that you can be counted on.
Bad plans and last-minute cancellations quickly lead to a loss of reliability.
3. The proximity
Being close to each other, communicating openly and regularly. Spending time together and respecting each other builds trust.
Not seeing or talking to each other regularly reduces the level of trust between the two people.
4. The Ego
This factor is under the division because it has even more impact than the others on the overall level of trust. When the ego takes up too much space, trust in the relationship collapses.
Taking care of the other person, thinking of the other person in their shoes and showing empathy are highly recommended practices for improving trust.
Looking after yourself and your own interests alone in a relationship is, of course, a no-no.
You now have a few concrete ideas on how to bring about change in your relationships.
It can take time to regain the other person’s trust when it has been lost. It takes consistency and commitment on both sides of the relationship to repair it.
Working on confidence, especially when it has been lost, is not easy. Let’s talk about it, I can help you.